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Showing posts with label Shoreline. Show all posts

Jeff Bettger 1997-2014

Your Name

Jeff Bettger

Gender

Male

Which describes your role at Mars Hill?

Regular Attender, Member, Group Leader (any leadership role), Staff

What Mars Hill location(s) did you attend?

Ballard, Downtown Seattle, Shoreline, West Seattle

What years were you involved / attending?

1997, 1998, 1999, 2000, 2001, 2002, 2003, 2004, 2005, 2006, 2007, 2008, 2009, 2010, 2011, 2012, 2013, 2014

How did you first hear about Mars Hill?

I heard about it through some friends. A person I knew had led worship there early on once and I thought I would go check it out.

What was the circumstance of your first time attending Mars HIll?

I walked from my house in the u-district to its then Laurelhurst location. It was in the evening and they had candles burning and generally a dark atmosphere that I enjoyed.

What were your first impressions?

This is interesting. I think I could come back

Why was Mars Hill your church home?

I played punk rock music and watched horror films. Nobody at MHC questioned my Christianity because I enjoyed a darker aesthetic. I had always felt like a misfit. I was not "christian" enough for the Christians, and too "christian" for those who did not identify with Christianity. At MHC I found more people like me. I found a community of misfits who loved Jesus and also enjoyed the cultural stuff I did. The Philosophy and name Mars hill came from Acts 17 when Paul uses cultural icons of Athens to proclaim the Gospel message to the folks listening. I loved this idea and philosophy to faith in Christ.

What about your time at Mars Hill has had a positive impact on you?

There were so many different phases it's hard to boil down. Early on the fact that I was asked to be a part of the worship band was monumental. the Philosophy of writing a new song to the Lord was amazing. We created our own music and played it at church. that was saying a ton for cultural contextualization which I so loved. Later it was the friendships I established and some aspects of reformed theology really challenged my thinking. When Redemption Groups began I also had some intense life giving and changing experiences. The depths of intimacy, trust, vulnerability and love I felt present in that ministry was forever life changing.

What about your time at Mars Hill has had a negative impact on you?

The harping on gender roles had a negative effect on me. I did not see it then as much as I do now. It was an issue that was not a direct gospel thing it was a cultural agenda. I am not sure why Mark chose that issue to really harp on. I thought I did at the time, but I am not sure now.

My wife (high school sweetheart) never fit the MHC mold for relationships. Instead of being encouraged to be who god made us and build our life accordingly we tried to conform thinking it was God's will for us. Post MHC we have had a rough go figuring out how to readjust who we are with who we were taught to be. Jesus loves us and made us the way we are. We are now egalitarian and I am a feminist. The positive and theological depth of those issues was portrayed in a shallow one sided way at MHC. This had such a negative effect on me, that during that time I would use scripture to Lord over my wife, thinking I was justified in the eyes of God for Pharisaical self righteousness.

Another negative thing was the ideas that we were riding some wave of god's grace due to the numbers of people in attendance. This is not even a Biblical idea. the grace of God is for all people, and is in Christ alone. This large corporate branding and mega attendance stuff is confusing and another cultural thing that has nothing to do with the gospel. That was negative and has taken me a while to reorient my bearings back towards Christ instead of works.

I was in the first round of infamous layoffs. That was hard. It was also alienating. The way people were treated as commodity instead of family was negative. I wish that had been more apparent to me at the time. I would have left then. However I was duped by the confusing nature of pragmatism and numbers in attendance that I felt a part of something special. That was the lie. Being a part of the kingdom of God is what is special.

The result source campaign and the way it was told to me was a lie and therefore a false Gospel. I found out from some pastors and was alarmed so I took it through the chain of command at my location as I was a volunteer pastor as well. I was told that it was common business practice and therefore ethically alright. Shortly after I quit because I could not be a part of something that lied in the name of God, purposefully to make a platform for an author to get more money and popularity. That is a Gospel of self not of Jesus Christ.

I also raised support as a missionary in the city of Seattle. at first it was with MHC, but then it became more difficult to raise support in that environment. They wanted all the money to go to MHC not independent missionaries. I could not do that, and therefore I needed to leave so I could be in a healthy environment to do what I do.

What would you like to have changed about Mars Hill?

I would have not let MD have the authority he had. I would have made a plurality of elders and kept everyone with equal say. I would not have focused on high tech wizardry at the expense of knowing the congregation personally. I would wanted only the Gospel message preached with all of it's mystery and history of differences. I would have wanted RG's to be more of a focus with the values of gentleness, love, and waiting for God than some of the MHC heavy handed authoritarian hierarchic bologna.

Which describes you?

I left Mars Hill prior to closure.

Please describe why you left Mars Hill and what that experience was like.

I left because I was changing in conviction about how I wanted to practice my faith. I also was getting sick and disgusted by the lies being told by leadership. I was a pastor and sometime I would hear my fellow pastors answer honestly about things, but most of the time it was like everyone was part of a machine and spoke like they had no opinion of their own. When I found out about the result source campaign I was horrified. the last straw was seeing the advertising for the last resurgence conference and Marks last book. It felt like an us against them manifesto for culture wars. I wanted nothing to do with that kind of thing.

How would you describe the reason for Mars Hill's closure to an outsider.

I would describe it as God closing down an abusive, domineering, religious institution in order to soften the hearts of his people for others who live in the city around them. It is also a monumental example of how not to practice your faith. Do not think you are the best or even the right thing. There is a history of conservative and progressive Christians in this world. god is doing His thing among all people. We got arrogant and self righteous.

What's changed for you since your time at Mars Hill came to an end?

I still raise support as a missionary in the city of Seattle. The things I do have been easier and moved forward in a more well received light now that I am not associated with a religious institution hated by our city. I am a feminist and egalitarian now. I still have a deep profound faith in Christ.

Tony - Shoreline 2006-14

Your Name

Tony

Gender

Male

Which describes your role at Mars Hill?

Regular Attender

What Mars Hill location(s) did you attend?

Shoreline

What years were you involved / attending?

2006, 2007, 2008, 2009, 2010, 2011, 2012, 2013, 2014

How did you first hear about Mars Hill?

I met some attendees at another ACTS 29 church Celebrate Recovery meeting in Bellevue.  I told them I was still looking for a church that felt right, they said they loved Mars Hill.

What was the circumstance of your first time attending Mars HIll?

Walked into the Ballard location and felt instantly at home.

What were your first impressions?

Loved everything, how Mark taught the bible was far and above all other reasons.  The music and bands were great, decor, coffee all added to the experience.  I liked that it was big enough that I could walk in and walk out without greeters.

The bands were amazing.

Why was Mars Hill your church home?

They were not pushy but they offered support to me right from the start.  James Noriega and Bent Meyer gave me one on one biblical therapy.

The church introduced me to people who really wanted to help and let me know they were there.  I also got into a men's group with Leo Schultz and that helped as well.

Once I got into redemption group, I was able to become sober after years and years of struggling.  Gods church saved my life.

What about your time at Mars Hill has had a positive impact on you?

It helped me come to understand God and his love and meet people who were not afraid to talk about their real problems.

What about your time at Mars Hill has had a negative impact on you?

I miss it, no other church has felt like home or made me feel excited to go.  It will be harder for me to ever tithe again because I know I will question how money is spent.

What would you like to have changed about Mars Hill?

More controlled growth and accountability.

Which describes you?

I stayed at Mars Hill through closure.

Please describe why you stayed at Mars Hill and what that experience was like.

I didn't want it to be over, it was depressing that Mark would not repent and be honest about what happened.  I wanted to see who was going to stay on.  The church seemed in a hurry to close, from my point.

How would you describe the reason for Mars Hill's closure to an outsider.

The head pastor spent church money to have a company buy his books to get on the NY Times bestseller list.  He was also accused a being a bully to others who ran the church.  Mark's ego became one of a big business CEO.

What's changed for you since your time at Mars Hill came to an end?

I'm sad I don't have a community of friends that go to a church I feel comfortable at.  It is harder now to trust churches.

Please write anything else you'd like to add.

Mark was an incredible bible teacher, people were great there.  There was low pressure to get involved in events but you knew you were welcome anywhere at anytime.  They helped me truly save my life and become a better father, husband and overall child of God.

Dan - Ballard, Shoreline 2008-14

Your Name

Dan M

Gender

Male

Which describes your role at Mars Hill?

Regular Attender, Member, Group Leader (any leadership role)

What Mars Hill location(s) did you attend?

Ballard, Shoreline

What years were you involved / attending?

2008, 2009, 2010, 2011, 2012, 2013, 2014

How did you first hear about Mars Hill?

I had recently moved to Seattle after living in another country and I was looking for a church to attend. I was invited by a friend who attended Mars Hill

What was the circumstance of your first time attending Mars HIll?

Invited by a friend.

What were your first impressions?

It was different than any church I had ever attended. I enjoyed the music. The young age of those who were attending was a surprise to me. I found Mark's sermon to be challenging and his approach refreshing.

Why was Mars Hill your church home?

Mark's preaching was challenging and encouraging. I found community and purpose at Mars Hill. I loved the vision and opportunity to be involved.

What about your time at Mars Hill has had a positive impact on you?

I have wonderful friendships that developed at Mars Hill. Those relationships are still intact and growing. My personal relationship with Christ grew and became more intimate. I learned more about the gospel then I had ever know.

What about your time at Mars Hill has had a negative impact on you?

The failure of Mars Hill has been incredibly negative for me. I struggle with attending church, wanting to develop friendships or listening to sermons. I felt lost and directionless.  

What would you like to have changed about Mars Hill?

Leadership that practiced what they preached. Mark Driscoll demonstrating repentance. Pastors who were not afraid to challenge those in authority and who didn't run leaving the sheep with an abusive leader. Theology that wasn't misogynistic, homophobic, controlling or based in fear.

Which describes you?

I left Mars Hill prior to closure.

Please describe why you left Mars Hill and what that experience was like.

I was on the biblical living team at the Ballard campus. I left when Phil Schmidt was unjustly fired. I realized that there was something wrong with our church at its core. I had heard stories and complaints from people that had left but I dismissed them. However when pastor Phil was fired I couldn't stand in silence any longer. I shut down my community group and encouraged all of them to leave with me. I stepped down from Mh place of leadership and left.

How would you describe the reason for Mars Hill's closure to an outsider.

I was failed because the leader was Narcissistic and unrepentant. The vision of the church became more important than the people it was serving.

What's changed for you since your time at Mars Hill came to an end?

I no longer see things black and white. I have developed more compassion for others. I no longer believe that it's wrong to be gay. It's difficult for me to trust ministers, however I feel closer to Christ. I will never again stand by in silence when I see wrong because of fear of what others will think .

Please write anything else you'd like to add.

Most of the leadership at Mars hill were good people whose motivation came from a good place. I do believe that Mars Hill was a cult or had cult like tendencies. The controlling and threat of losing community if you did not conform are cult like techniques. Some of the pastors attempted to push me in marriage even though I was gay. I am glad that I didn't let them do that.